Showing posts with label Nora Ephron. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Nora Ephron. Show all posts

Monday, June 26, 2023

Movie Quote of the Day (‘Sleepless in Seattle,' on ‘Days When People Knew How To Be in Love’)

Annie Reed [played by Meg Ryan] [watching "An Affair to Remember"]: “Now those were the days when people knew how to be in love.”

Becky [played by Rosie O'Donnell]: “You're a basket case.”

Annie: “They knew it! Time, distance... nothing could separate them because they knew. It was right, it was real, it was...”

Becky: “A movie! That's your problem. You don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie.”— Sleepless in Seattle (1993), screenplay by Nora Ephron, David S. Ward, and Jeff Arch, directed by Nora Ephron

Thirty years ago this week, Sleepless in Seattle premiered, and promptly became a hit.

At the time, I enjoyed the film without being ecstatic about it. Maybe what dimmed my enthusiasm slightly was that it felt as much about falling in love with movies as it did falling in love with a person—not just this scene’s homage to Nora Ephron’s obvious inspiration, An Affair to Remember, but also to its counterpart, the “male weepie”—most obviously, The Dirty Dozen.

Ephron paid similar homage to another classic romantic comedy, the James Stewart-Margaret Sullavan Christmas classic The Shop Around the Corner, with You’ve Got Mail. Again, I felt that, for all Ephron’s wit, her particular spin did not improve on the original.

Maybe the problem was that I had previously encountered Ephron in a different guise, as a masterful essayist whose contributions to Esquire I could never get enough of—an original, biting voice whose departure for Hollywood I felt was a big mistake.

I’m glad that Ephron found enduring love in the end with Nick Pileggi (another excellent journalist who decamped to Tinseltown). But her first love—and really, the one that sustained her through all—was the movies—just what you’d expect from the daughter of screenwriters Henry and Phoebe Ephron. (The daughter in their film Take Her, She’s Mine was based on Nora.)

Since Ephron’s death 11 years ago, I have come to feel differently about her work. I still wish that her films were more original, and I still beg to differ with the subtitle of Erin Carlson’s I'll Have What She's Having: “How Nora Ephron's Three Iconic Films Saved the Romantic Comedy.”

But with time, I can better appreciate how much of a struggle it was for her or any woman to get anything close to a unique vision of a film made in the face of unimaginative, sexist movie executives.

I can better value the sprightly voice of her screenplays and the primary value they championed: wit as a life preserver for those facing loneliness, fear, and tragedy.

I can better see the void her passing left in a Hollywood increasingly consumed by budget-busting, CGI-crazy sequels.

In fact, I would say, Sleepless in Seattle now feels timeless, capable of being appreciated by multiple generations.

Thursday, June 22, 2023

Movie Quote of the Day (Nora Ephron, on ‘When You Slip on a Banana Peel’)

“When you slip on a banana peel, people laugh at you, but when you tell people you slipped on a banana peel, it’s your laugh. You become the hero rather than the victim of the joke.”—American essayist, novelist, memoirist, and screenwriter-director Nora Ephron (1941-2012), in the documentary Everything Is Copy, written by Jacob Bernstein, directed by Jacob Bernstein and Nick Hooper (2015)

Friday, January 18, 2019

Quote of the Day (Nora Ephron, on Cooking and Prosperity)


“My mother was a good recreational cook, but what she basically believed about cooking was that if you worked hard and prospered, someone else would do it for you.”—American screenwriter-director, essayist, and novelist Nora Ephron (1941-2012), Heartburn (1983)

Monday, June 26, 2017

Joke of the Day (Nora Ephron, on Teens and Dogs)



“When your children are teenagers, it's important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.”—Screenwriter-director-essayist Nora Ephron (1941-2012), I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman (2006)

Nora Ephron died on this day five years ago in New York, the city of her birth. Although she may have seemed almost predestined for a Hollywood career as the daughter of stage and screen-writing team Henry Ephron and Phoebe Ephron, I think that the woman responsible for, among other films, Sleeping in Seattle and You’ve Got Mail really found her natural genre in the essay, where her wry voice was unfiltered and most original.

Most parents, I suspect, would agree with her quote above. An even higher percentage of women, I think, have, over the years, nodded their heads in agreement over this one: “As far as the men who are running for president are concerned, they aren't even people I would date.”

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Quote of the Day (Nora Ephron, on Turning ‘Everything Into a Story’)



“Vera said: ‘Why do you feel you have to turn everything into a story?’
“So I told her why.
“Because if I tell the story, I control the version.
“Because if I tell the story, I can make you laugh, and I would rather have you laugh at me than feel sorry for me.
“Because if I tell the story, it doesn't hurt as much.
“Because if I tell the story, I can get on with it.”— Nora Ephron, Heartburn (1983)

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Quote of the Day (Roger L. Simon, on Nora Ephron and What Splits and Unites Us)


“When I knew Nora, I was a liberal on her side of the fence. We never spoke after I made my political change, well over a decade ago now….

“But death, as any decent rabbi would say (so why shouldn’t I?), is a time to reflect. We all have our ideas and solutions for the world, how things should or shouldn’t be fixed. But we’re all just people, making our way. If we have compassion for each other even as we disagree, life might be better for all.

“God knows it’s short enough.”—Mystery novelist, screenwriter and conservative blogger Roger L. Simon, remembering fellow screenwriter Nora Ephron (1941-2012), in the blog post  “Nora Ephron Passes,” June 26, 2012

I had another piece I was going to post in this space, and I wasn’t even that keen to write about Ephron herself (about whom I have written before here, anyway). But the partisan divisions among Americans have become so screaming loud that it’s important to be reminded, as Simon does here, of the essentials in life.

“The paths of glory lead but to the grave,” the poet Thomas Gray wrote. So do our differences. If death is not a time for lowering the voices, when will that time ever come?

Monday, March 12, 2012

Movie Quote of the Day (‘You’ve Got Mail,’ on Cybersex)

Birdie Conrad (played by Jean Stapleton) to Kathleen Kelly and Christina Plutzker (played by Meg Ryan and Heather Burns): “What are you girls talking about?”

Christina: “Cybersex.”

Birdie: “I tried to have cybersex once, but I kept getting a busy signal.” You’ve Got Mail (1998), written by Nora and Delia Ephron, based on the play Parfumerie by Nikolaus Laszlo and the screenplay The Shop Around the Corner, by Samson Raphaelson, directed by Nora Ephron

Friday, January 13, 2012

This Day in Baseball History (First Lady Ump Wins First Legal Round)

January 13, 1972 The New York Court of Appeals ruled in favor of Bernice Gera in her attempt to become the first female professional umpire. The victory was short-lived, however, as five months later, the former housewife was subjected to such abuse from players and fans--and lack of support from male umpires--that she quit after her first game.

I first came across the story of Gera in a marvelous essay collection by Nora Ephron, Crazy Salad: Some Things About Women. Forget about her derivative, often snarky work as screenwriter and director: Ephron’s real calling is as an essayist. Her January 1973 piece on Gera, written shortly after the latter’s failed attempt at breaking into the game, is shadowed by irony: i.e., the would-be feminist icon who somehow failed the movement. Yet, for all Ephron’s wishes that everything would have turned out differently for Gera and womens liberation, you can’t help but like this baseball lover.


Four decades later--and two decades after Gera’s death--it’s even harder not to feel sympathy for her. Reading her story, you might wish that she had succeeded as a rule-breaking pioneer, but then might have been glad that she did not, when you consider the physical and psychic toll that prolonged disrespect might have exacted on her.

What Gera was facing was probably best described by a later woman who got closer--but still didn’t fulfill--her dream of becoming a major-league umpire, Pam Postema. “Almost all of the people in the baseball community don’t want anyone interrupting their little male-dominated way of life.,“ she wrote in her 1992 memoir, You’ve Got to Have Balls to Make It in This League. “They want big, fat male umpires. They want those macho, tobacco-chewing, sleazy sort of borderline alcoholics.”

It was even worse for Gera. Two and a half decades after Jackie Robinson broke the color line in baseball, Art Williams was having a tough time becoming the first black umpire in the National League (a situation recounted in Lee Gutkind’s 1975 The Best Seat in Baseball, But You Have to Stand). If a black umpire seemed difficult for many to accept even at that late date, the concept of a female umpire was impossible.

By Gera’s own later account, she didn’t really want to be a revolutionary, or disrupt the game she had come to love so well. She would have been content to have been a goodwill ambassador for baseball, serving in some sort of community relations program.

But matters took a turn for the worse when, after graduating from a Florida umpire-training school, she applied for a job with the New York-Penn League, near her Jackson Heights, N.Y. home. The league’s agreement to offer her a contract was rejected by the president of the National Association of Professional Baseball Leagues, who unsuccessfully invoked a minimum-size requirement to try to keep her out.

The courage of Robinson, Curt Flood, and Roberto Clemente in breaking down racial, ethnic and labor barriers is not to be underestimated. Gera, however, was virtually isolated. The opposition of the male mossbacks of baseball, such as the now-justly-forgotten commissioner, General William Eckert (she would become an umpire “over my dead body," he vowed), was to be expected.

Less well known, however, was that Gera was taking her case through the courts without the help of the feminist movement, which was just then emerging as a significant political and legal force. According to a Craig Davis profile of Gera in a 1989 South Florida Sun-Sentinel article, not one women’s organization assisted her in her court battle. This made doubly ironic the later contention of many feminists that she had set back the movement when she quit her job.

Many were chagrined when Gera resigned after a single New York-Pennsylvania League game in Geneva, N.Y., in June 1972, less than six months after she won in court. It seemed as if she had one fight with a manager who didn’t like one of her calls, then threw in the towel. But it wasn’t that simple.

Gera had spent four years in court only to find that, the closer her dream was coming to fruition, the harder became the resistance to it. She continued to receive threatening letters and late-night calls, and the portents for her first game proved particularly ominous: Not only were fans taunting and abusing her, but the other umpire refused to speak to her as the game started. His behavior was startling and unprofessional, as it meant that these game partners would not know the elementary signals that would allow them to function as a working team.

That’s what happened in the sixth inning of the game, when Gera, momentarily confused by a play, immediately reversed herself. When the manager of the team suffering the reversed call rushed out to protest, Gera let him jabber on and on, feeling he had a legitimate gripe because she had initially blown the call. Finally, she felt compelled to act when he called into question her basic authority: “You made two mistakes. The first was leaving the kitchen; you should have been home peeling potatoes.” Gera ejected him, completed the last few innings, then, before the second game of the double-header, resigned.

Sportscaster Dick Schaap, echoing a comment made by an interviewee about Gera, noted, perhaps ironically, “She committed the cardinal sin of baseball--she admitted she made a mistake.” How times have changed! A year and a half ago, major-league umpire Jim Joyce manned up and admitted he had blown a call that cost a pitcher a perfect game. Even his teary greeting of the pitcher, the next time they encountered each other, was regarded as the epitome of honesty, even a guide to politicians on how to behave after a mistake has become all too public.

In contrast, reactions to Gera at the time for similar behavior amounted to, “What do you expect?” from the antediluvian crowd, and “She let down the movement” from the presumably more enlightened. And so, even though she vowed to Ephron, “Don’t count me out; I expect to be in baseball next year,” she would never umpire a professional game again.

The New York Mets have been taking it on the chin lately for the Wilpons’ financial misadventures. However, even a team that is otherwise horribly run can have real moments of grace. I’m speaking, in this case, of the Mets regime under M. Donald Grant. The team board chairman did succeed in, among many other sins, driving away star Tom Seaver and manager-to-be Whitey Herzog, but the team did during that time employ Gera for five years as part of its community relations and promotions team.

Nobody should ever have questioned the toughness of Gera, a product of a broken home in an industrialized region of Pennsylvania. Even to get to her one game umpiring, she had to endure a pioneer’s struggle, consisting, in Ephron’s words, “of the loneliness she will suffer if she gets the job, of the role she will assume as a freak, of the smarmy and inevitable questions that will be raised about her heterosexuality, of the derision and smug satisfaction that will follow if she makes a mistake, or breaks down under pressure, or quits.”

Two decades after her lawsuit and her exit from the game, Gera died after struggling against cancer, enduring at least 31 radiation treatments, medication that left her woozy, and an operation to restore the use of her right arm that only worsened matters. She was as tough and brave as they come--fully the equal of those who rejected her from the "summer game."

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Quote of the Day (Nora Ephron, on Phone vs. Email)

“The phone requires you to converse, to say things like hello and good-bye, to pretend to some semblance of interest in the person on the other end of the line. Worst of all, the phone occasionally forces you to make actual plans with the people you talk to—to suggest lunch or dinner—even if you have no desire whatsoever to see them.

“No danger of that with email. E-mail is a whole new way of being friends with people: intimate but not, chatty but not, communicative but not; in short, friends but not.” --Nora Ephron, “The Six Stages of Email,” The New York Times, July 1, 2007